Thursday, May 3, 2007

Great NFP Article

Given a recent dispute on NFP which Jen and I participated in (I plan on posting about it this weekend), I thought it would be a good idea to post this article. A good friend sent it to comfort us and help us form our consciences properly.


Anonymous said...

I found this via another blog, and hope you don't mind the anon. comment.

This is indeed a great article. I actually spent a great deal of my work day (and countless other days) fretting over the exact subjects it addresses, and reading it has given me peace. It seems lately that our priest has been putting a lot of emphasis on having children, specifically praising people with large (if not huge) families, and even hinted to my husband and I specifically that he was expecting us to have a baby soon. However, I feel that I *must* stay at home to raise my children in order to be a good mother, and we are not yet at a point financially where we can manage that. We have been married almost 2 years now, and we are not living beyond our means or anything, it just takes time. It seems some people think that "go forth and multiply" means that you are to immediately get to work having as many babies as you can, and if you're not in a position to do that then you have no business getting married (ignoring the fact that God plays a role in who you marry and when).

Hearing these sermons in church, along with the constant pressure of anxious future grandparents and aunts and uncles really gets me feeling sad and guilty sometimes. I just try to remind myself that I am not being selfish, and I want what's best for my future children. For me personally, the use of NFP is an incredible sacrifice, not the "monthly honeymoon" that some make it out to be. It helps to know that I am sacrificing my immediate pleasure (both as a wife and mommy) for the sake of my future babies.

Thank you for posting the link.

JimmyV said...


My heart is glad that the article was a source of consolation for you. I was comforted by its thoughtful and kind analysis as well. I am sorry that the words of your priest have caused you strife but I am sure he has the best of intentions. Since we hear so few homilies about the blessing of children, I imagine he is over-reacting to the general silence on this issue.

May God bless and keep you. May He comfort you as you strive to follow His will. You and your husband are in my prayers.

Paul said...

Thanks for the link. It was a great article. I incorporated it into this post of mine: